By Nick Nightengale
At a time when more and more men and even some wonderful women are realizing that feminism is a harmful hate based dogma, I thought it might be worthwhile to make note of just a few of the many elements of feminism that make it part of the new sexism. The only exceptions to my analysis that I can think of, among self described feminists, are the conservative feminist Christina Hoff Sommers and perhaps Camille Paglia.
Under traditionalism, men and women each had dominant rights and responsibilities in one of the two realms that form the basis of human existence. These realms are work and family. Men had the right to most of the better paying (read: hazardous) jobs, but this came with the responsibility to support a wife and children. Women had the right to be supported and gain custody of the children in a divorce, but this came with the responsibility to raise the children and run the home.
Then second wave feminism came along saying “No, no, no! To be truly equal, men and women must have the same rights and do the same things in equal numbers.”
Feminists claim that women were oppressed. However, it was never entirely clear to me which sex had it worse. Was it women cloistered in the home, or men out in the world taking nearly all the jobs that at least shortened their lifespan, if they didn’t kill or maim them outright? Feminists argued that paid work was better, describing—in apparent ignorance of the difference between the worthless and the priceless—women’s traditional work as “meaningless shit work.” If I’m wrong on that characterization and women got paid for their work inside the home, I’ve always wondered what feminists think they should charge for making lunch for their kids or for loving their husbands? Would payment add meaning to those activities?
It mattered not because going forward both sexes would have the same rights—or so feminists told us. So did they mean it, or were they lying from the get-go?
Feminists fiercely fought for equal rights for women in the workplace, at least for the most desirable professional jobs. Feminism did not bring the same concern for men in female dominated roles. Indeed, feminists have routinely fought against custodial and reproductive equality for men, as well as against equalizing women’s enormous sexual power, even with respect to husbands.
When feminists told us all they were for gender equality, they lied. They lied from the beginning. They lied then. They lie now.
So on the face of things feminism has moved society from each gender having dominant rights in one realm, with the opposite sex having dominant rights in the other realm, to one in which women maintain their traditional privilege of rights dominance in one realm and get equality in the other realm.
I am much more modern than I am traditional for a variety of reasons. For one, I know I’m a better parent than many, and would get custody of children in any family system not grotesquely biased against fathers. I grew up with sisters, and I always found myself in classes with lots of girls. I found it natural that both sexes do similar things, so I have some difficulty seeing how getting equality for women in one realm and fighting against it for men in the other realm is in any way “progressive,” much less “egalitarian.” It sounds more like female supremacy.
Feminism has taken us from each gender having dominant rights in one of the two realms of life, to traditional female superiority in the family realm and equality in the work realm. Even though I’ve noted that adds up to overall female advantage, I haven’t gone far enough in criticizing feminism.
I’ve so far neglected two important elements of feminist sexism that have a significant negative impact on gender equality in the world of work. The first is affirmative action or “equity hiring,” which is either an inherently sexist concept (putting value on what one has between one’s legs, instead of between one’s ears), or a potentially useful concept that has been implemented in a brutally sexist manner. Instead of being used to break a tie between two equally qualified candidates, it has been routinely and repeatedly used to hire and promote less qualified women—sometimes even unqualified or incompetent women—over competent more qualified men. University of Ottawa Professor Janice Fiamengo, a firm feminist in her early academic years, came to be concerned about the deal society is giving men, in part because she saw “again and again and again” lesser qualified women promoted over more qualified men. I understand she will be speaking at the Kennesaw State Conference. Don’t miss her!
The second element is the notion of “responsibility”, I mentioned earlier a few times. Traditionally both men and women typically took the responsibility associated with the dominant rights of what was then considered their respective realms. No more. While feminism repeatedly calls on men to take responsibility for child rearing, they are deathly silent when it comes to women taking responsibility for supporting their family. This is especially so when women would be required to take what I refer as a “Triple D” or “DDD” jobs. DDD stands for “dirty, dangerous or distant” work. In other words, the jobs of many many men. Contrary to feminist dogma, men don’t work in coal mines out of stupidity, but rather out of sense of responsibility to their wives and children. This fills men to their core, even if it drives them to their demise.
If one adds in the sexist privilege of gender preference in hiring in the most desirable jobs, as one must, then it is clear that women have workplace gender superiority, to go with family realm superiority. On top of that as noted, women are largely allowed to evade the common male reality of DDD work, because feminists have hypocritically not called for women to bear equal work responsibility and take whatever job they need to take in order to support their family. Feminists lied when they said their concept of equality was inclusive and would result in equal rights for men and women.
With women constituting 60% of the positions in medical school, law school and many university faculties, with affirmative action to rocket them up the corporate or governmental ladder and with DDD jobs remaining almost exclusively male, we see that some now have substantial workplace superiority over men. When we add as we must women’s traditional substantially superiority over men in the family realm (sexual power, exclusive right to reproductive choice and preferential bias re child custody) we are obliged to conclude across the two realms of family and work women have dramatic superiority over men.
Men not only rarely get primary child custody, while organizations like NOW fight furiously against the equality of “shared parenting”, yet feminists tell us they are working on the problems men face. The statement is laughable in face of the facts. Rather, we are obliged to conclude that feminist actions put the lie to feminist words. They have taken society from each gender having some “rights dominance” to women having dramatic rights dominance in both the work and family realms. And this was achieved through the lie that feminism wanted equal rights.
No matter how much feminists gain, they continue to pretend there is a “patriarchy” and demand top 500 CEO positions because vagina.
Feminism is sexism on estrogen. Let’s get some justice and equality for men and boys by ending feminist hypocrisy, starting now.